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Why Losing College Friends Isn’t The Worst

College and high school are completely different experiences, but they do share two important similarities—they both end, and life goes on.

Neither experience can last a lifetime. One of the hardest parts about the end of both experiences is adjusting to life after.

One important thing to remember is that you will lose touch with your friends, and as hard as it will be, you’ll be okay. Life happens. People move. There isn’t enough time in the day. You’ve always been closer to other people. You always hear about how you will drift apart from your old high school friends, but the same thing happens after college. Just as starting college is a new transition, so is starting a new job.

Losing friends is a universal experience. There’s only so many ways it can happen. Sometimes it’s quick and understandable, a betrayal or a post-college move for a job. When it’s a slow transition, it can seem like one side is being offensive. However, both parties are often at fault. Friendship is a two-way street. When life happens, it’s best to just be honest and discuss the mutual drifting. A friendship needs to be taken care of properly. It needs to maintained, or there needs to be some closure. Completing college and being older should give you more perspective and allow you to handle losing friends differently than after high school.

Sometimes people just move. This is just as common, if not more so, after college compared to high school. College friends typically live in the same building or even room. So moving across the country or even down the street can seem like a huge loss. Friends you’ve had in very close quarters the past few years are suddenly gone, and that’s hard. That doesn’t mean they have to disappear, but that is a constant support system in your life you need to recover from losing. However, close friends will want to stay close emotionally even if there’s a large physical distance.

As much as we can want to keep some friendships, science proves that friendships change. When you think about it, how many of your college friendships were based on living in the same dorm or getting wasted at a frat party? These are healthy to leave behind. Sometimes these people are best for the memories.

While it’s never a pleasant experience, losing friends is something everyone deals with. It helps you cherish the ones you keep, and it makes you happy for the ones you are currently making.

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